You are standing at the front desk, eyes puffy, holding your wallet. The receptionist asks, *"And would you like the clay paw print for $45? And the cedar urn box for $150?"*
Your brain says: *If I say no, do I not love my dog?*
That is the guilt talking. Stop it.
The "Menu" Translation
Here is what those extras actually are:
**Clay Paw Print ($30-$50):** It's literally $2 worth of modeling clay. You can buy an "air-dry clay kit" at Walmart for $5 and do it yourself at home before you go.**The "Urn" ($100+):** The standard "temporary" container is usually a sturdy plastic box. It seals fine. You do not need the wood box *today*. You can find beautiful, personalized urns on Etsy next week for half the price.**"Private Viewing" ($50-$100):** A room to say goodbye. If you already said goodbye at home or in the exam room, you don't need to pay for this 15 minutes.The Script: How to Say No Politely
You don't need to apologize. Be direct.
**Them:** "We recommend the Deluxe Memory Package..."**You:** "I just need the simple private cremation today. I'm going to handle the memorial items later myself."**Them:** "Are you sure you don't want a paw print?"**You:** "Yes, I'm sure. Just the basic service please."Exception: When to Pay
**Home Pickup:** If you can't drive or lift the dog, this is the one "upsell" that is actually a necessary service.**Ink Prints:** Ink is harder to do yourself without making a mess. If they offer ink prints on cardstock for cheap ($10-15), that might be worth it.Next Steps Checklist
Decide your budget *before* you walk in.Make your own paw print or ink print at home if you have time.Practice the phrase: "Just the basic service/container, please."Remember: Your love is not measured by the receipt total.