Coping with Pet Loss During Holidays

The first Thanksgiving without my dog was brutal. Everyone was laughing, passing food, and I kept looking at the empty spot where she used to wait for scraps. Holidays amplify absence.

Why holidays are harder

Strategies that help

**Lower your expectations.** You don't have to feel festive. It's okay if this holiday is just 'getting through it.'

**Acknowledge the absence.** Pretending everything is normal doesn't help. Say their name. Share a memory. Let the loss be part of the day instead of something you're hiding.

**Create a small ritual.** Light a candle. Hang their ornament. Say a toast. Make space for them in the celebration.

**Have an exit plan.** Give yourself permission to leave early, step outside, or take a break when emotions hit.

**Tell someone how you're feeling.** At least one person at the gathering should know you're struggling. They can run interference if needed.

What to say when people ask how you're doing

You don't owe anyone a performance of happiness.

Memorial ideas for holidays

For future holidays

The first round of holidays is usually the hardest. Each year, it tends to soften—not because you miss them less, but because you learn to carry the grief alongside the celebration.

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